Violent temper is very bad for the child. What should we do with children who often lose their temper? Here are some tips!
1. Create an emotionally stable environment for your child.
A family whose parents are arguing all the year round, the child’s emotions are difficult to develop steadily. And there are some situations which parents are easy to be the violent temple. For example, if a child writes homework in the study room, suddenly the living room will hear a snoring sound. Can he finish his homework with peace of mind? Or if the child did something wrong, he would not dare to say it. He could only wait with fear. As a result, when the parents met, they shouted loudly and scared him.Because children will inadvertently imitate their parents, including all good and bad behavior habits. It can be said that the temper of the child is closely related to the parents. It is like soil and flowers. Poor soil, cannot grow good flowers.
2. Help children understand their emotions.
Instead of using the bad violent temple to treat your children. Parents need to help their children learn to describe their feelings and tell they are true needs. You can ask your child, get angry, what do you do? Last time I asked the little fish this question. He told me “Maybe I will cry because I am comfortable when I cry, I may tell the teacher that someone has made me angry.” “Then you will beat someone?” “I don’t beat people because that’s not right.”Helping children understand their emotions, parent-child reading is a better way. Use books to let children know the emotional language. And the story is often the epitome of the real world. Children recognize different emotions in the story and understand how people deal with different emotions such as anger, fear, happiness, and sadness.
3. Let the child use “words” to express his feelings.
Let them know some emotional language. For example, “I am very angry”, “I am a little unhappy”, “I am very happy now”, “You make me uncomfortable”, “I want to lose my temper!”… When children find the language they can help them express their emotions. They will also be happy to use them to praise people, “Auntie, you are beautiful”, “I like this younger brother”, “I feel so good!”For the elder children, there is already the ability to say. But they are often reluctant to say it. The key is to check that if the family environment can let them express it and see if they are willing to express it. This is worthy of parental reflection.